On Breasts, Bhakti, and the Male Gaze
Puberty is a big thing in this part of the culture. The first period indicates that the young girl's reproductive organs are now fully grown and functional. That roughly coincides with the stage when a woman's breasts also begin to grow noticeably. And when I hit that stage, the elders around me were particular about one thing: never expose your breasts. It needed to be flat. I didn't understand. But that's precisely the stage when one rebels. The younger me thought it was an unfair curb on women. I would disobey. After a certain period, there were no expectations or do's and don'ts about dressing norms. I was free to wear whatever I liked. It's when I noticed one thing: men threw second looks at the torso when it was exposed. The look was gross. There were times I would pull my dupatta down haphazardly, thankful for the fact that I wore a salwar. I started following the norms which were imposed on me when I was a girl. I now don't wear salwars as much a...